My Top Pregnancy Pet Peeves
There are many uncomfortable things that a woman faces while she’s pregnant: backaches, nausea, restless legs, swollen feet, mood swings, difficulty sleeping, and strange food cravings (just to name a few). The fun doesn’t stop there. There’s people. People can be annoying by what they say or do. It doesn’t matter if their intentions are good because there’s no excuse for rude or inconsiderate behavior. Things I may have previously ignored are now exacerbated by my raging hormones. Yes…I know that most pregnant women experience things that bother them from time to time but I never truly understood just how bad it would become until I experienced it for myself.
Because writing is cheaper than therapy, I’m sharing my pregnancy pet peeves with all of you. They are in no particular order because order doesn’t exist when you’re pregnant…only chaos! ?
1) Staring, staring, AND MORE STARING!! This has to be my biggest pet peeve while being pregnant. Everywhere I go, I get stared at. It is the most uncomfortable and annoying thing to me. People will switch back and forth with their eyes between my belly and me, almost as if they have never seen a pregnant woman before. Then the pregnancy mood swings kick in…
2) People suggesting that my life will be miserable with a kid and that my life is ending. This includes the most common comment, “Enjoy it while it lasts! When the baby gets here….”. I get lectured and told this constantly! I obviously know that I have a lot coming my way and that yes, I will for sure be tired but I will cope and deal with everything when it happens. I understand that it will be extremely hard to start out as a first time mother who is also a full-time student in college but it will be all worth it; especially since it is a miracle that I’m even having a child despite all of my health issues. My life isn’t ending… a whole new chapter in my life is just beginning.
3) Being watched while eating. I don’t know about you but yes, this happens to me ALL of the time while out. From the time I walk into a place to eat, it never ends. Like yes, I’m pregnant… Yes, I’m actually eating food… No, you don’t need to stare and be rude. This also relates to what I stated above about staring; people act as if they have never seen a pregnant lady before.
4) Constant belly touches. I think this is probably the most common pregnancy pet peeve. I’m not a petting zoo! So simply, don’t touch me; unless you are my close family member. Just because my belly now sticks out, does not give random people the right to touch my belly. If it wasn’t okay to touch my belly before, why do you think it’s okay to touch it now just because I’m having a baby?? Personal space is definitely much needed while pregnant.
5) Women sharing over-detailed and scary pregnancy/birth stories. I understand that it might not be intentional, but I rather not hear about the crazy, gruesome pregnancy and delivery experiences with extreme details. All it does is make my anxiety level increase and create a new fear that I didn’t have before. As if I don’t have enough to be scared or worry about with my due date quickly approaching!
6) Being interviewed. When are you due? Did you have morning sickness? Are you having twins? Did you find out if it is a boy or girl yet? Do you have any baby names picked out? Is the baby’s father involved? Was your pregnancy planned? Where are you delivering? Are you going to breastfeed? Why not? Random people will ask me all of these questions and more in a very short time period. It’s almost like once I became pregnant, it made my entire life plans and body everyone else’s business.
7) People trying to take over your whole pregnancy. This includes trying to pick the baby names, telling me that I should do things the way they did with their child, criticizing me about choosing not to breastfeed, telling me how I should raise my daughter, etc. I absolutely can not stand when this happens and I try to be as nice as possible in my reaction/response.
8) The “Oh wait I forgot, you can’t… you’re pregnant” comment. I hear this very frequently, along with “Why do you have to be pregnant right now?!”. People seem to believe that just because I am pregnant that I can’t do ANYTHING. This has gotten to the point where I have gotten left out of events or plans.
9) Comments on my weight, size, etc. I don’t like comments about my size… period. I do struggle daily with my self esteem, but being pregnant has just made it worse because my whole body is going through rapid changes. I absolutely do love my baby bump but I rather not constantly hear jokes about how huge my belly is and comments about my size/weight.
10) People in general. Some days everybody gets on my nerves. One word—->hormones.
What were/are your pet peeves while pregnant? Please share in the comments below!