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  1. Great post! I suffer a lot of worry.. which causes self fulfilling prophecy all the time.
    In my twenties (Im in my forties now) I did A levels at evening class, I wanted to do child psychology. After achieving a B in sociology and E in psychology I realised I couldn’t do a psychology degree. Then considered being a primary school teacher. I redid my maths GCSE and passed and got a 2:2 degree in religious studies with social sciences… now eight years at evening class whilst working full time.
    I then couldn’t afford to quit my job and do a pgce for teaching but also advised I wouldn’t pass it by a friend.. teaching is hard. Complete lack of confidence, life’s put downs, my worries have all made me feel very stupid. When I had my children I hated the health visitors… I felt patronised by them. I’m sure this was just in my head but it’s how I felt.
    I earn the same today as I would if I had never done all my study. I’m in a different job but same pay band. I’ve gone for promotion twice and crippling nerves have gone against me.
    I started my blog due to life stress and stress with my two wonderful children. I started writing fiction because it is cathartic.. I need the time out emotionally.
    I’ve struggled these last few months due to no alone time. I’ve had many very late nights as that’s when everyone is asleep. Yes I’ve had counselling a few times and I didn’t get on with it as again I felt talked down to and judged.
    So, I’ve never achieved what I set out to achieve. At fifteen i wanted to be a pop star. I used to dance along the bench at school singing as loud as I could… and yes I cringe at that now, but I would have loved singing lessons back then and had that nurtured.
    I think life is one long challenge and I’ve been through to much to write it all here and some of it is to personal and involves others. When I stop and reflect there are times I’ve carried on when others have quit. I tell myself that I do a job I enjoy with very little stress involved. Teaching is definitely stress, especially now. Higher grade means more responsibly and I did enjoy my A levels and degree I just wish I had had more of a career plan when I was at school. Wasted years of not trying and feeling stupid.. Yes complex case and I could bore you for hours! I’m now writing a science fiction novel, first draft almost completed, I need to redraft it.. lots of work and a long way to go…

    1. Thank you Marian for your kind words. It sounds like you’ve definitely had a few challenges in life. I always tell myself that the key is to learn from them and just keep going. I truly believe it’s never too late to find the right therapist, the right job, or the right life. You’ve got to keep trying. Are you an introvert? I am and I totally understand the need to have alone time. Find it when you can (even if it’s late at night like you said). Glad to hear you’re writing because it’s something I’ve found to be very therapeutic. Hang in there! Have you tried my free 5 day negative to positive self-talk challenge? You can sign up here: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5eb7569d8daf1400260db87b You may find it helpful and if not, you can always unsubscribe. Sending you hugs.

  2. Thank you for breaking down the differences between worry and anxiety. I also really appreciate that you acknowledge that your parents honestly did the best that they could in the situation. While I don’t have children of my own, I do work with a lot of teens that are struggling with their mental health and that is a discussion that I have had with almost every single one of them. Parents aren’t perfect, they don’t have the answers to everything and, sometimes, mental health issues are honestly hidden well enough that they can explain away the few signs that they do see as normal ‘teen angst’. It’s not that they don’t love their children and wish the best for them in many cases.

    1. What an incredibly helpful and insightful comment, Britt! It took me a long time to realize that yes, my parents were human and they did the best they could with the resources and knowledge they had at the time. It helped me forgive them for many things.
      You are spot-on that there is a very fine line between mental health issues and teen angst and often the symptoms and behaviors are quite similar. In my own practice as a therapist, parents were frequently surprised to find that it was more than teen moodiness. It sounds like all the teens you’re working with are lucky to have you. Thank you for stopping by, Kim.

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